Has your libido gone kerflooey lately? Experiencing some signs your libido is on the fritz? There’s one thing worse than hot flashes and night sweats that make you think you just woke up from swimming the 500-meter freestyle at the Olympics. Low libido, high libido, whatever your sex drive is, you can be sure it’s likely to need some help at some point. You might be asking yourself what is considered a “normal” libido. You’re in luck, my friends. It’s Lucy Libido to the rescue!
What Is a Normal Libido Level?
Most men would love to be a fly on the wall when ladies get together to talk about our sex lives. (And maybe vice versa!) We all want to know the answer to the age-old question. Just how much sex is considered normal? The Better Health Channel gives us the steamy answer. Everyone is different and that’s normal. Well, there it is! This not-so-exciting answer doesn’t solve any disputes on the matter between men and women. While we are all considered normal in the libido area, there are reasons why some of us fly high on the trapeze and others take a nosedive into a bottomless pit.
What Causes Your Libido to Dip or Peak?
When we were young, we had no idea that we even had something called libido. Yet it was so high we could’ve sprinted across the finish line at any time, any place, or anywhere. So, what changed? For some people, nothing changes. But if you find your libido living vicariously through Lifetime channel movies and not in your real life, then you might want to figure out why. The Mayo Clinic tells us there are physical and hormonal causes such as:
- Pain during sex.
- Medical diseases or certain medications.
- Food or drink.
- Menopause, pregnancy, or breastfeeding (for women).
There are also are psychological causes such as anxiety, depression, and stress. Low self-esteem, poor body image, or previous negative sexual encounters can cause your libido to go into hiding. For women especially, arguments or a loss of connection with your partner can cause low libido.
On the flip side, some people have a high libido. We generally feel more like sliding under the sheets when we are eating healthy, exercising, and experiencing low levels of stress. For men, higher testosterone levels can be the reason they’re doing the dishes by hand at 10 p.m. and putting the kids to bed!
Sex Drive S.O.S. Signals
“You want to have sex again?” said no man ever. Right? Wrong. Contrary to popular belief, both men and women can have a low or high libido. You might be asking, “If we’re all normal, how do I know if mine is too low or too high?”
Testosterone is a man’s best friend when it comes to sex drive. Just the right amount of estrogen is what the ladies need. As we age, both typically decrease. Low libido comes knocking at the door and we have no choice but to answer it. Signs of low libido include a lack of interest in any sex at all, rarely thinking about sex, or being concerned about your sex life.
According to the folks who care about our health, high libido is only a problem if it:
- Interferes with daily life and activities.
- Harms your relationship, health, or work.
- Causes you anxiety or depression.
- Takes over your thoughts and behaviors.
Essential Oils for Your Libido
You can do something to help support and regulate your libido, so you and your partner are both doing the dishes and putting the kids to bed early! Essential oils can help!
If romance and arousal are your goals, Sensation essential oil from Young Living is my go-to! Creating an atmosphere where you can relax is just the beginning of sending your libido into gear. Sensation essential oil also supports the sacral and heart energy centers. And hey, who couldn’t use more heart energy doing the “you-know-what?”
Young Living has another favorite of mine. Lady Sclareol essential oil blend combines 12 essential oils and was made just for the ladies! The aroma is intoxicating and can even be used as a soft scent instead of perfume. There’s also a bonus to Lady Sclareol essential oil blend: supporting healthy skin. If happy and playful is what you’re after, this one’s for you, ladies.
Ylang Ylang essential oil has been long known for its romantic vibe. Native to Southeast Asia, Ylang Ylang was thought to balance yin and yang. It was also used in hair products to support shiny, soft hair. Maybe a hot bath is just what you need to relax and unwind. Add Ylang Ylang to your bathwater before enjoying a passionate night of love with your partner. Or, you can add some heat to your partner’s hands by using it as a massage oil. Just combine it with your favorite carrier oil or unscented lotion and get down to business!
Regain control of your libido
So, where do you go now that your libido has peaked? Valentine’s Day is the perfect occasion to purchase my essential guide to learn more. Then head on over to my oils page and pick yourself up some romance in a bottle!